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Hi, I'm Misty, Christian life coach for busy and ambitious moms. I help women discover and develop their own unique rhythms that allow them to stop dwelling and start dancing to a beautiful and abundant life.
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The last of my children was leaving home. I had no idea that as a Christian woman I would be confronted with loss and loneliness, something I would have to overcome.
And instead of feeling the freedom everyone told me was coming — the space, the quiet, the long-awaited exhale — I felt something I hadn’t expected.
A growing abyss.
My days had been structured around him without my even realizing it. Wondering how he was doing. Making sure he got to work. Checking whether he’d eaten. The quiet daily rhythms of mothering that I hadn’t even counted as connection — until they were gone. My full-time role as a mother was drawing to a close, and what spread out before me felt less like freedom and more like a desert. Barren. Dry. Vast.
And in that desert, I sensed the Father waiting.
Here’s what the research confirms and what most of us already feel in our bones: loneliness is reaching epidemic proportions.
Not just among the elderly or the isolated. Among capable, connected, faith-filled women. Women with full calendars and busy homes and active social media feeds who still curl up at night with an ache they can’t quite name.
We were created for community. From the very beginning, God looked at His creation and said — it is not good for man to be alone. And yet.
The reality is that loneliness is not a character flaw. It is not evidence of weak faith or an unlived life. Loneliness is a clue — the way a hunger pain tells your body it is missing something necessary. When loneliness surfaces, it is signaling that something essential is absent: human connection, intimacy with God, a sense of belonging.
And here is what most of us do with that signal: we run from it as fast as we can.
As I stood at the edge of that desert season — youngest gone, house quiet, abyss widening — I had choices.
I could go back to what was comfortable. I could allow my relationships with my children to become unhealthy, managing their lives just to fill the space. I could manufacture busyness, create a social calendar, throw myself into church activity, find somewhere to belong that would drown out the ache.
I wanted to. Desperately.
But the Lord stopped me with a verse He had first shown me twenty years earlier — one that suddenly carried the weight of a personal invitation:
“Behold, I will allure you and draw you to the wilderness, and there I will speak kindly to you.” (Hosea 2:14)
In The Message translation, it becomes almost unbearably tender: “I’m taking her back out into the wilderness where we had our first date, and I’ll court her.”
The desert was not a punishment. It was a date.
He was inviting me into the loneliness — not to escape it, but to find Him there.
During that long season, I did something I hadn’t expected to do: I studied the word lonely.
In Greek, the word carries several meanings. Solitary. Only.
And then this — beloved.
Lonely and beloved are, in the original language, one and the same word.
Psalm 68:6 tells us that “God places the lonely in families.” But with that understanding, you could also read it this way: God places the beloved in families.
Your loneliness is not evidence that you are forgotten. It may be the very thing God is using to draw you into a deeper understanding of who you are — His beloved. And it is His desire to use that ache to escort you directly to Him.
Even Jesus knew loneliness.
Crowds followed Him everywhere. Many believed. And yet — “Jesus, on His part, was not entrusting Himself to them.” (John 2:24) In the middle of being surrounded, He held back. He relied solely on the Father for affirmation and support.
Paul, abandoned by everyone at his first defense, wrote simply: “No one stood by me… all deserted me. But the Lord stayed with me and gave me strength.” (2 Timothy 4:16-17)
These are not footnotes in the margins of faith. These are the giants — and they felt what you feel.
The promise they stood on is the same one available to you right now:
“Do not be afraid. I will save you. I have called you by name — you are mine. When you pass through deep waters, I will be with you.” (Isaiah 43:1-2)
“I will be with you always, to the end of the age.” (Matthew 28:20)
I have learned — slowly, imperfectly, in the middle of too many quiet evenings to count — that loneliness can become one of the most sacred escorts of our lives.
Sometimes it takes me by the hand and leads me to pick up the phone and ask a friend to come over. Sometimes it leads me to a coffee shop just to be near the hum of other human beings. And sometimes — the holiest sometimes — it leads me to a chair in my empty house to sit before the Lord and discover Him as an oasis in dry and barren land.
The ache is real. And it is also an invitation.
If you are in a lonely season right now, I have written a prayer for you — one that walks through the desert with you, attribute by attribute, reminding you of who God is when you can barely remember your own name.
It includes:
This prayer is yours — formatted as a keepsake guide you can print, tuck into your Bible, or return to whenever the desert stretches long.
👉 Download the Desert Prayer Guide — Free
Loneliness is the signal. Community is part of the answer.
If you are in a season of isolation — feeling like an island in the middle of a crowded life — come find your people.
The Mom2Mom Mentoring Facebook Group is a community of women who understand this particular ache. High-achieving, faith-filled moms who are learning to be honest about the loneliness, pursue genuine connection, and build the kind of relationships that actually sustain them. It’s free, it’s safe, and it’s full of women who will not let you feel alone in your loneliness.
👉 Join the Mom2Mom Mentoring Facebook Group here
And if you want to go even deeper — I’m exploring the loneliness epidemic in detail in the Flourish in Friendships podcast series. Listen here — Episodes 59-64
Where is loneliness escorting you right now — and what would it look like to let it lead you somewhere holy instead of somewhere hiding?
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